Adults rightfully want children to take responsibility for their actions. I'm guessing the following scenarios are familiar to you:
- Cassandra, a 2nd grade student, is doodling rather than completing her work in class. A competent student, Cassandra frequently squanders time and has been spoken to by her teacher on numerous occasions. Today, her teacher says, "Cassandra, I see you've chosen not to go out for recess with your classmates today."
- DeShawn frequently disrupts class. Today is no exception. His teacher has had enough and announces, "OK, DeShawn. I guess you've decided you want to spend some time with me after school today. I'll see you for thirty minutes after dismissal."
- Jocelyn has been told repeatedly to clean her bedroom. Her mother believes it's reasonable to require a 13-year-old to keep her room tidy. After repeated warnings, Jocelyn's mother tells her, "I can see by looking at your room that you've decided not to go to the dance Friday night."